Are you living your Best Life?

I’m not talking about your dream life, where you’re a world-famous movie star / rock star / insert-other star.

Your Best Life is the one you can strive for now and live every day. Your Best Life is making the most of your time, energy, passions, etc … now.

Most of us have certain boundaries we’re living inside of. Or commitments we’re living around; family, friends, finances, careers, etc. Some of these are real and honourable.

Some, on the other hand, are not. Other people’s expectations of you; pressure you put on yourself derived by social media; fear of failing / looking silly / upsetting others.

Put all of those aside and think about what your true Best Life would look like. Feel like. Smell like. Sound like. Taste like… You get the picture. You need to really know it and understand it to live it purposefully.

I think it’s best not to start the new year with ‘resolutions’ as such. Those throw-away lines about diet, exercise, quitting bad habits, instilling new ones, etc. Now don’t get me wrong here, I’m all about changing habits and being a better, more productive, healthy and happy you. But I suggest having more holistic goals in mind. And then your habits will form part of a wider plan of action. Part of the bigger (biggest!) picture of all.

I’ll ask again…. are you living your Best Life?

If so, what are you or will you do to maintain and sustain that life?

If not, what are you or will you do to work towards living that life?

Want to think about that some more? Let’s take a few moments to reflect.

  1. First of all, what is your Best Life?
  • Clarify your Best Life in words (or pictures if you’re into mood-boards and such).
  • What are the elements that make up your Best Life?
  • What are you contributing towards your Best Life now?
  • What is the purpose of this Best Life? (This doesn’t need to be profound. It can be as simple as happiness or fulfilment.  But remember life is a journey, not an end-state like success or achievement.).
  • How does your current life align with your identity or who you want to be?
  • How does your Best Life align with your identity or who you want to be?
  1. What’s standing in your way?
  • What are the biggest road blocks obstructing you from living your Best Life?
  • Can any of these road blocks be torn down? Be honest with yourself, because you might find, on close inspection, some are imaginary roadblocks that you honestly believe will damage you if you smash into them at high speed. But really, they’re in your mind and are begging for you to test their validity.
  1. Assess the impact of living your Best Life
  • What parts of your current life will be affected when you’re living your Best Life? (relationships, health, finances, career, etc).
  • What might the short-term downsides be that you’re willing to accept to really live your Best Life long-term?
  • Will you be hurting anyone else by living your Best Life? We’re not talking about causing discomfort, embarrassment, or worry… we’re talking physical or mental pain.
  1. What are the small milestones along the way that will help you reach your end goal?
  • Let’s chunk it down… think about those elements that make up your Best Life…
  • Now compare them to the elements making up your current life…
  • For example, what do you spend your time and energy on in an average day? (family, work, socialising, Nexflix, social media, just to name a few possibilities).
  • What changes need to be made to your routine / habits / daily or weekly existence?
  • What are some bite-sized, manageable pieces you can tackle starting now?
  1. Who do you need to connect with to help lay the path to your Best Life?
  • What conversations do you need to have?
  • What conversations do you need to stop having?
  • What skills or habits do you need to gain or change?
  • What growth or development do you need to invest time in?
  • Who will support you and help you stay on track with your goals and milestones?

Ok… by now you’ll have a budding list of ideas and suggestions on where to focus your time and energy creating your Best Life.

So what’s the first step you’ll take to live your Best Life?

Employees want to add value… so let them!

Is your team clear on what they need to do and why? And if not, how do you think that’s impacting your bottom line? Maybe it’s time to wipe the canvas clean, assess current-state versus desired-state and get everyone on the same page.  

Many times I’ve come across teams or people doing tasks simply because they were asked to (sometimes years ago!) and no one has told them the task is no longer required so of course they keep doing it.

It’s a pretty safe bet that you can think of an instance like this… maybe a report gets manually entered, generated or printed – but the data, process or outcome has changed over time and it’s no longer adding value or needs to be updated to truly be meaningful.

Or maybe a role in your team remains only because the person occupying the role is a valued member of the team and you don’t want to lose them… even though the tasks they complete, no matter how competently, are getting surpassed by technological advances or other change initiatives.

Guess what… employees want to be adding value! They strive to do a good job and produce meaningful work. If they’re not adding the value you think they could be – maybe it’s time for a clarity session. Going back to the drawing board and identifying expectations, accountability, change management, and aligning to the bigger picture – your company’s strategy, mission and purpose.

This is NOT about finding cost synergies and downsizing, making people ‘do more with less’. This is about going through an important exercise in order to increase productivity, efficiency and engagement. It’s about identifying and playing to people’s strengths – setting people (and the team) up to succeed.

By having clarity around their role in a team and ultimately the organisation – your employees can be empowered, proactive and assess if what they’re doing is actually adding value. So let’s embrace a continuous improvement mentality … as a manager you can have a go at this yourself, or you can get someone (cough, cough, maybe me) in to run the sessions from a non-biased perspective.

Initiating a discussion is a good way to get the ball rolling. But it needs structure and guidance if it’s going to be successful. I’ve got a number of tools and templates to guide this process and keep it on track. Also, you can focus on your job as a leader, as well as being a willing participant (this can be a time-consuming process if you’re not familiar with it). 

A clarity coaching session guides you and your team through a people-friendly approach to establishing or restructuring tasks, roles or functions. It can (and should) be delivered in a non-confrontational, non-threatening manner and focuses on growth, development and contributing to the achievement of the team and organisations’ wider strategy.

See how this could be of benefit to you and your team? Connect today to find out more.

The very first step when engaging employees

Do your employees have clarity around why their job even exists? What lens are they looking through when viewing your organisation’s culture?

This fundamental first step when engaging employees begins, either deliberately or unwittingly, before they even start their first day with the organisation. It actually starts during the recruitment and onboarding process.

Employee engagement on the whole is made up of a range of different factors or drivers. With some drivers weighting more than others depending on the environment, team and the individuals. However, one of the key drivers of employee engagement that all organisations should be able to nail, is clarity of purpose.

I agree with Simon’s Sinik’s sentiment that organisations which provide their people something to work towards are more likely to engage employees rather than just giving them something to work on. As Simon says, “If the leader of the organisation can’t clearly articulate WHY the organisation exists in terms beyond its products or services, then how does he expect the employees to know WHY to come to work?

Research shows that giving employees clarity of purpose and connection with end-goals substantially increases productivity and effectiveness – helping navigate towards success.

Employees with clarity and purpose not only approach their own tasks with more enthusiasm and dedication, they frequently go the extra mile to be helpful and courteous to their colleagues and more dedicated to the organisation. Fostering strong employee engagement and strengthening organisational culture.

After working in recruitment for a number of years, I understand the temptation of painting a picture that doesn’t accurately align with reality – just to get the ‘right’ people in the door. I also know how if feels to be sold a job or an organisation that doesn’t end up fitting the picture I was led to believe. You’re not doing the organisation any favours by getting people in the door under false pretences (or wishful thinking). And for an employee – it’s disengaging.

Checking in with employees, at any stage of the employee lifecycle, and asking a few simple questions about the lens in which they view why they do what they do, and what value they’re adding, helps managers accurately assess perception and then articulate the actual purpose of the organisation, the team and the individual.

Don’t underestimate the power of starting a meaningful conversation around clarity of, and connection to, purpose. It’s an important driver all managers should have on their employee engagement checklist.  

Absenteeism – more than just a nuisance

When was the last time you reflected on the absenteeism of your team members?

Think about your team or those who seem to be noticeably MIA lately (maybe they’re present in body but not so much in mind). Have you stopped to wonder or – heaven forbid – ask (in a caring, non-judgemental way) what’s going on with them?

  • Are they ill? If so – do they know you genuinely care about them and their long-term wellbeing?
  • Are they burnt out? If so – do they know you genuinely care about them and their long-term wellbeing?
  • Are they suffering from a mental illness? If so – do they know you genuinely care about them and their long-term wellbeing?
  • Is someone close to them ill or struggling and your employee needs the headspace to help them through this difficult time? If so – do they know you genuinely care about them and that includes the wellbeing of their loved ones too?

(Side note for all of the above – are your employees aware of the support you/HR/your organisation offers, whether it’s EAP services, flexible work arrangements, access to health benefits, etc. Maybe consider a time and place for a meaningful, non-obtrusive conversation.)

  • Or are they disengaged with their work/manager/colleagues and simply can’t face coming to work? Ahh – lets explore that in more detail…

Employee engagement is one of the driving factors for how people show up to work… or not – as the case may be. The energy levels they put into their job. The connections they make and the work they produce.

Absenteeism can be a by-product of a disengaged employee. And connecting with them, having a conversation about how they’re going, just might give you some insight into their frame of mind.

Don’t wait until the dreaded annual review, take the time to connect with them because you care about them and their engagement with all things ‘work’ (tasks, environment, development, stakeholders, peers, etc). Have a coaching conversation where they do the talking and you do the listening.

Make sure they feel safe and comfortable having the conversation, it’s not a subject that you want to bring up in the middle of an open plan office, but you might not want to conduct it in a formal setting either. So find a neutral environment conducive to a positive, solutions-based conversation.

The insight gained for both of you can be priceless. For you it can assist with strengthening the culture of your team. It could lead you to other areas to focus your engagement energy. But more importantly, it could lead to the individual reengaging, reconnecting and maybe starting to feel like they’re adding value again.

I’m no innovator… but that’s ok

I’ve just realised that I don’t have to be ‘an innovator’. I’ve decided it’s a label I don’t need to twist myself in knots trying to add to the long list of things that I am and that I’m proud of, and here’s why.

I see pressure all around for us to be innovative. In this highly connected / social / sharing world thoughts and ideas are popping up and progressing at an astonishingly rapid pace. If we’re all innovative, ahead of the curve, pioneers… who are the doers? The people who ground these ideas and concepts into practice, process and allow them time to grow roots and show their true value.

Don’t get me wrong… I see the desire / need / requirement for change / progress / evolution (I am in learning and development after all!). I’m just not one of the inventors stretching the bounds and disrupting the status quo on a visionary level.

And until recently, I thought that made me less. I thought I had to fake it or hide the fact that it’s not a natural thing for me to lean into (as much as I may want to at times). Just because I don’t class myself as an innovator, doesn’t mean I’m not creative and imaginative.

I do believe in playing to our strengths. Stretching ourselves and continuously developing in the field we thrive in and / or are passionate about. There are a lot of bloody fantastic ideas out there already that aren’t being harnessed to their full potential. Which remain relevant.

I wouldn’t be doing what I’m doing if I didn’t think it was pertinent and dare I say it – imperative to flourish in today’s world. The fundamental aspects of communication, connection and problem solving are indeed very useful skills in managing the change going on around us / to us / because of us.

I may not be an innovator, but I am still relevant. And I’m more than ok with that.